You know, for a girl who applied to be on “The Bachelor”, I sure have a huge problem with the guy that I’m dating talking to more girls than just me. What makes it so different? I guess the fact is that the one breakup can make you famous and the other leaves you staring at your ceiling fan wondering what these other girls have that you don’t. I’m just going to say it’s their youth. Yeah. That’s usually a huge factor.
Honestly though, am I the only one who sees what’s wrong with this? How can you decide if you want to be with someone if you aren’t putting 100% into getting to know them? How do you remember which name or which fun fact goes with what person? How do you tell them all apart? How can you make a decision if everything is blurred together? So many questions!
I understand that dating is much different now. If I’m meeting someone on an app, I expect that they are talking to more than one person. But don’t lie about it. I guess one of my bigger pet peeves are potential prospects acting like they are some sort of heaven sent gift. They brag about how loyal they are, and how they believe in only focusing on one woman at a time. They ask you the same questions, because they want you to think that it’s extremely important that you have the same values. Ya know, they’re “different than most guys”. And then they turn around and do the same things that most guys do. Like, I told you some personal stuff. I thought we had some sort of connection. Yeah, totally misread that.
Call me old-fashioned (or a terrible multi-tasker), but I believe in giving a shot to one guy at a time. I feel like that’s a good quality to have, and it’s definitely a plus to enter a relationship with trust. If I don’t trust you, this isn’t going anywhere good. You are just wasting my time.
My friends and family make fun of me because I always self-sabotage any and every new fling that I enter into. Somehow I tell myself that it’s better than entering a relationship that will most likely be toxic. And if it ends up wonderful–well, what goes up must come down. So, I find flaws, I tell myself I’m not that interested and I usually try to cancel the date before it even happens because I already know how it’s going to end. Either he’s amazing and ghosts me, or he’s terrible and ghosts me. Which by the way, I don’t care who you are or what you look like; you’re not cute enough to act like that. No one is, and if you think anything different, then someone needs to knock you off of your high horse.
Does anyone else find it difficult to either focus on one person, or find someone who isn’t dating multiple people at a time? Am I going about this whole dating thing the wrong way? I’m wondering if it will ever get easier, or if one day I’ll just give up and take myself on lavish vacations where all I do is eat tasty delicacies that I find on IG foodie pages.
Actually, the latter sounds pretty great.